Success still means always available. That model was built for people with no one to care for.
A week into my first full-time job, my boss told me he couldn’t imagine having kids and then not showing up for work because they were sick. My son was two and a half.
Over the years I learned that the hardest part of leaving a job isn’t leaving. It’s the risk of the next one. Will the culture be any better? Will they give you flexibility by default? Or will you have to explain yourself every time your kid has a fever?
BS Detector is that detector, turned into a skill. It’s never easy, but I want the price of asking hard questions to get lower for the women who come next.
I stand with women in tech.